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I started out by writing my default stories, like you know, “me and my dad didn’t connect and this made me feel like I was boring”. It’s been really nice as I’ve been working on this project to actually fully remove the old negative formulations, so the below list is just the new positive formulations. So I don’t have to wade through loads of “ok this is the truth, this is why my situation is bad, in a huge amount of detail, and now here’s an attempt at a positive reframe”. It’s like, nope, here are the truths of my situation, boom, they’re all positive. I’m very lucky.
I have been profoundly lucky
- 👆 This is the new meta-story. After working on this for days, this is what I started to converge on, and it feels really good and correct!
- There’s something about writing the below titles in the past tense that feels extra good. I think there’s a feeling of finality to it, of non-negotiability. I was lucky to have had x vs I am lucky to have x. Present tense feels like I have to effort to maintain it, or something?
Lucky in my relationships
- I was very lucky to have a family who loved me a lot ✅
- I was very lucky to have parents who massively improved upon the parenting they received ✅
- I was very lucky to have a lovely girlfriend from 15 to 26 ✅
- I was very lucky to know so many lovable people ✅
Lucky in my journey
- I was very lucky to have had the home life I did ✅
- I was very lucky to have my life arc
- I was very lucky to enjoy every life era
Lucky in my constitution
- I was very lucky to have been passionate, opinionated and proactive
- I was very lucky to be so lovable
- I was very lucky to be born into my body
Appendix
- Inspired by:
- "I made up a few stories about myself that had the same life facts but totally opposite conclusions and realised a super power"
The main stories that held me back
- There are ~3 different beliefs that have a lot of overlap
- “I am boring”
- “I don’t have much of value to offer”
- “My life arc is dumb, mostly I’ve been a loser”