Note - this is from 10 mins of voice notes they sent today → we’ll now be doing a weekly call
“this is so valuable to me, so grateful, fact that you’re like ‘do you wanna do a weekly one’ I’m like yes this is so valuable”
almost like “omg are you sure I’m allowed it, that’s very generous” which points to how valuable this is
because just the container is valuable, if you’re like “I wanna try a specific exercise for 5 mins”, happy to do it!
feel like I’m getting a great deal so would love to help you with your goals as well
Why this is valuable
why this is specifically valuable to me → talking, having all these thoughts and feelings, having the outlet to talk about them and you providing a safe and non-judgemental place, knowing the VIEW framework, Self, if you’re sitting there and feeling in Self, calm compassionate curious etc, that’s kinda all that’s required, so much of it is being able to hold the space, it’s safe for me to share, also reassuring me too, “omg i’m talking too much!” “no this is what this is for!”
saying all this stuff out loud, then being able to connect the dots, stuff makes sense as i’m saying it, having a witness, kinda how Focusing works too, transforming to be witnessed, safe & ok
also, because [transference - Freudian thing, therapist provides the thing that was missing] → attachment can be healed, safe container. So by you being there, safe witness and container, therefore facilitating healing (in my specific case)
Specific positive feedback
the fact that you’re asking how you can get better → here’s someone who genuinely wants to do a good job at what they’re doing → you’d think this’d be normal but so many coaches/therapists just do the training
you having the confidence to hold the space to do something like “let’s pause and do a meditation”, another IFS therapist just ended up being talk therapy → requires a lot of confidence for the other person to take charge, “ok we’re doing this, we’re dropping into the body”, vs just doing the comfy thing of talking
Client 2 coaching feedback
Hey man thank you for your time and facilitation today. Genuinely appreciated the container you held today. Was a challenging & beautiful experience
I specifically appreciated your guidance through the somatic inquiry and processing
You’ve been nothing but kind and generous since we got introduced a few weeks ago and I really appreciate it
Client 3
I also did a session with someone who was brand new to this space (that is, like, post-rationalism), so she’d never done Focusing or memory reconsolidation before, so we did that and it was really good